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Husband Hates Trump, But Not Enough. Wife Considers Divorce

Virginia Kruta | Associate Editor

President Donald Trump has been divorced twice himself, but according to New York Magazines Intelligencer, hes now responsible for breaking up other peoples marriages.

Its not exactly a new idea that political differences can lead to relationship strife. But the idea that political support for one person is grounds for ending a relationship or even a marriage appears to have grown out of the animosity of the 2016 presidential contest. (RELATED: Sarah Silverman Scared And Shaken At Sight Of American Flag)

Lebron leaving Cleveland because Dan Gilbert supported Trump is completely believable. People are getting divorced over this election

— Doug Gottlieb (@GottliebShow) August 16, 2017

Feminist author Jill Filipovic suggested that support for Trump was (maybe) grounds for divorce in 2016.

Not saying you should get divorced if your husband supports Trump, but honestly maybe consider it. https://t.co/ukOBf6ZFli

— Jill Filipovic (@JillFilipovic) September 28, 2016

But of the couples profiled in the Intelligencer, most fundamentally agreed that Trump was the bad guy. The problem was, according to the women, that the men didnt hate Trump enough.

How conflict over politics is testing, or even ending, relationships https://t.co/1dG7iFag10

— Intelligencer (@intelligencer) November 28, 2018

“Sarah” argued that her husband, a military service member with two wartime deployments, should come with her to protests if he doesnt want to feel “lonely.”

Thats not how my husband wants to spend his time. Hed say, “Yeah, I love a strong woman. Everything shes doing is badass, Im super-proud of her. But I want her to do less of it.” For me, the fact that hes so uninterested in what Im doing has fundamentally changed the way I see our partnership.

She went on to say that she would describe her husband as a feminist, but his unwillingness to be the only male in the room is a reflection of his “white male privilege.”

Ive never thought, Maybe I should just stop all this and save my marriage. That would teach our kids something I dont want to teach them. It almost feels like the 2018 version of the woman who gives up her career to stay home.

“Samantha” also feels disconnected from her husband, despite mutual hatred for Trump, because he asked her not to allow it to consume their time together.

He thinks Trump is as much of a blight on the world as I do. But throughout the hiring of the Steve Mnuchins of world, the white privileged men, and with every single Cabinet member and Jared Kushner and Ivanka, he had much less rage than I did. Eventually he was like, “We cant go to bed talking about them and wake up in the morning with you still spewing about them.”

She says that Trump hasnt ended their marriage, but as they go through counseling shes noticed that “the rage that I feel, the toxicity I exhibit is something he often doesnt understand.”

Only one couple, after a number of rough conversations, came to the point where they felt that both the pro-Trump and anti-Trump perspectives could “coexist safely.”

“Craig,” a liberal couples therapist, said that he was so upset initially after the election that he found himself unable to use the relationship tools he taught other couples to use. But after attending an event with other therapists dealing with the same problem, he saw a way out.

I began to recognize my own blind spots and that I was not allowing Debbie to feel safe with her perspective. When she started to talk, Id cut her off and try to make my point. But as I started to practice deep listening, she began to feel less judged. And actually we began to have a deeper connection. We got married last January.

“Debbie” agreed that the transition was not easy, but that it was worth it.

As we listened to each other and listened to each others news stations, though, I think we understood the other persons views better. I might not agree, but I get where youre coming from.

Craigs also been able to see liberals being pretty disrespectful about my voting for Trump … Since Im not a racist and all these awful things, Craig has realized the generalizations people make about Trump supporters are not true.

For some, the political differences seem insurmountable. But others — like Democratic strategist James Carville and his wife, former Republican strategist Mary Matalin — have found a balance despite working in direct opposition. (He worked for the Clintons and she worked under former Presidents Ronald Reagan and George H.W. Bush.)

Matalin left the Republican Party officially in 2016 — not because of Trump, but because the party had drifted away from her own more libertarian views.

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Husband Hates Trump, But Not Enough. Wife Considers Divorce

Virginia Kruta | Associate Editor

President Donald Trump has been divorced twice himself, but according to New York Magazines Intelligencer, hes now responsible for breaking up other peoples marriages.

Its not exactly a new idea that political differences can lead to relationship strife. But the idea that political support for one person is grounds for ending a relationship or even a marriage appears to have grown out of the animosity of the 2016 presidential contest. (RELATED: Sarah Silverman Scared And Shaken At Sight Of American Flag)

Lebron leaving Cleveland because Dan Gilbert supported Trump is completely believable. People are getting divorced over this election

— Doug Gottlieb (@GottliebShow) August 16, 2017

Feminist author Jill Filipovic suggested that support for Trump was (maybe) grounds for divorce in 2016.

Not saying you should get divorced if your husband supports Trump, but honestly maybe consider it. https://t.co/ukOBf6ZFli

— Jill Filipovic (@JillFilipovic) September 28, 2016

But of the couples profiled in the Intelligencer, most fundamentally agreed that Trump was the bad guy. The problem was, according to the women, that the men didnt hate Trump enough. (more…)

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